One year ago, I came out as a man and began socially transitioning without changing my body or appearance. My life essentially became one big thought experiment: how many times would I get misgendered in a day? Should I hold those closest to me to higher standards regarding my name and pronouns? What if I missed going by my so-called deadname? How would my cis male partner feel about being in a gay relationship?

I have answers now. They may surprise you. New essays every Wednesday until October 21.