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One of my New Year’s resolutions was “actively practice Stoicism” — but what does that even mean?

Stoicism is the practice of overcoming adversity and negative emotions by controlling what you can, and coming to terms with what you can’t. It’s helped me immeasurably when it comes to reaching my goals and getting what I want out of life.

I first started practicing Stoicism after several close relationships I had abruptly ended. There was one of my best friends, who, with no explanation whatsoever, told me that they no longer wished to speak to me anymore. There was my partner of two years, who I mutually broke up with after realizing that no amount of good intentions or promises can keep two fundamentally incompatible people together. There was someone who I was more than a little infatuated with, but couldn’t pursue because they were already committed to someone else.